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Wow, another night with insomnia.  This is failing to be fun.  I'm not as worried about sleeping as usual though, since I have my rheumatologist appointment tomorrow, meaning I get to sleep in.  Man, I hope to hell he can help me.

The real reason for this post though, is to pick your brains.  I'm worrying about wedding details, as usual.   I'm petrified I'm going to forget something.  I'm getting married at 4PM on October 13, 2007 right outside of Philadelphia.  I'm planning the ceremony outdoors and the reception in a tent.  What do I need?  You might be especially helpful if you're coming and you give me some answers.  It could turn into a great suggestion, but I'm open to anything.

PS - I made an attempt to be overly vague for a reason.  I figured the less you all know, the more you'll suggest, meaning the likelihood of my overlooking anything decreases drastically.  Thanks upfront for the help.

Date: 2007-04-19 10:29 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jessfromva.livejournal.com
Umm.. good shoes? I know I wouldn't wanna walk around outside for hours in a pair of heels.

Date: 2007-04-19 12:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lvlystori.livejournal.com
I can tell you what i forgot that i wish i didn't...

tony and i had some beautiful vow like stuff that I found that we repeated and that Mrs. Reese stated.. talking about love, etc.. whatever..

Anyway... since our wedding was outside, and it was windy, none of the people in the audience(?) could hear a word we were saying.. at all... its really dissapointing, and its the only thing that if i could do it again, thats what I would fix.

See if you can hook up some kinda sound system w/ some mics near you guys so everyone can hear you.



Date: 2007-04-19 01:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lvlystori.livejournal.com
Because I love sharing it, because i wish more people would have heard it.. here is what our ceremony wording stuff was. This might take a couple posts...

I don't expect you to use any of it, but I thought it was so pretty.. and its non denominational.. so thats the way we wanted it...


Good evening, and welcome to the ceremony that will unite {Groom} and {Bride} in marriage. We gather here today to celebrate their union, and to honor their commitment to not just gazing at one another, but to looking outward together in the same direction. Today {Groom} and {Bride} proclaim their love to the world, and we rejoice with and for them.

In marriage, we give ourselves freely and generously into the hands of the one we love, and in doing so, each of us receives the love and trust of the other as our most precious gift. But even as that gift is shared by two people who are in love, it also touches the friends and family members who in various ways support and contribute to the relationship.

All of you are {Groom} and {Bride}’s community, and each of you has played some part in bringing them to this moment. This is why gathering as a community is such an important part of a wedding ceremony. Because {Groom} and {Bride} are now taking a new form as a married couple, and in this form, they become part of their community in a new way.

Unity Candle Ceremony(Officiant lights the separate candle sticks representing the bride and groom.)There are many traditions and rituals commonly included in marriage ceremonies. One of the most beautiful and expressive is the "Unity Candle." Two fires, separate and individual, uniting their flames to burn as one. Imagine how you might describe fire to someone who had never experienced it before. It is difficult to say what it is, because it is both substance and energy at the same time. The best you might do is to say that there is always plain evidence of it when it exists, and that you can feel its warmth. Love similarly would be hard to describe to someone who had never experienced it before, except to say there is always visible evidence of it when it exists...and you can feel its warmth.(Bride's name) and (Groom's name), as a symbol of the union of your separate selves, would you now light the Unity Candle...(With their candle sticks, Bride & Groom light the larger Unity Candle together.)

{Groom} and {Bride}, we are here to remember and rejoice with you and to recount with one another that it is love that guides us on our path, and to celebrate as you begin this journey together It is in this spirit that you have come here to today to exchange these vows.


Date: 2007-04-19 01:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lvlystori.livejournal.com

{Groom}, repeat after me:

I {Groom} take you {Bride} to be my wife /
I promise above all else to live in truth with you/
and to communicate fully and fearlessly/
I give you my hand and my heart /
as a sanctuary of warmth and peace/
and pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor as I join my life to yours.



For thousands of years lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows. These simple gold bands are not of great value in themselves, but are made precious by our wearing of them. Your rings say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bound together. Let these rings also be a sign that love has substance as well as soul,
a present as well as a past, and that, despite its occasional sorrows, love is a circle of happiness, wonder, and delight.

{Groom}, take {Bride}'s ring and put it on her finger, and repeat after me:

Just as this circle is without end, my love for you is eternal/
Just as it is made of indestructible substance/
my commitment to you will never fail/
With this ring I take you to be my trusted confidante and partner for life.



{Groom and Bride}, although I’m officiating here today, it is not truly in my power to sanctify, legitimize or bless your relationship in any way, because the two of you have already done that in your hearts. So, by joining hands right now and looking into each other’s eyes, let it be known that you are joined, body and soul in this lifetime, and that this bond is sacred and eternal. And now that you have stood before me and exchanged these rings and these vows, and have agreed to be married according to the laws of the state of California, it gives me gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are Husband and Wife.

Date: 2007-04-19 01:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] candyeater.livejournal.com
Is there going to be dancing? You may want to rent one of those floor thingys.

I guess I'd also make sure that whatever favor your using (as goes for anything else on the tables) are weighted somehow so the can't blow away in case of wind, and maybe something to keep the pages in the guestbook from blowing.

Date: 2007-04-19 05:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] taintedheaven.livejournal.com
See, this is what I needed! My favors will be okay, but now I know I have to figure out how to weight down the placecards. We're getting a dancefloor, but I'm worried about walking over grass during the ceremony.

Date: 2007-04-19 11:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] candyeater.livejournal.com
I don't know what your budget is like, but you can always get those picture holders that havve the coil at the top. You can get them wholesale online for less than a dollar each. Especially if you find a good sale, maybe like .50 each. I suppose it also depends on number of guests.

When we were married outside there was a stone walkway so we were safe with the. The pictures on the lawn beforehand were tricky (but not for me I had ballet flats on - everyone else was wearing heels).

Date: 2007-04-20 12:57 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I wanted those. I saw perfect ones that had pewter castles as the base. Do you know a site I can try? I found them on Ebay, but they're a dollar each.

Date: 2007-04-20 02:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] candyeater.livejournal.com
I was looking around and found some stuff that you would like, but unfortunately the best I saw was .89

There are some other ones (hearts) that are going for .69 each. You may want to check these sites out (they're wholesalers):



Hope this can give you some ideas!

Date: 2007-04-20 02:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] taintedheaven.livejournal.com
Thank you so much! Your googlefu is much stronger than mine. I kept finding sets of 12 for $16 and stuff like that.

Date: 2007-04-20 03:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] candyeater.livejournal.com
No problem - I like checking around anyway to check out favors and such. I'm in a friends wedding next year and will be single handedly doing the shower, so if I can start looking up cheap favors and things like that now it helps me get a perspective on how much $$ I'll need.

Date: 2007-04-19 02:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eicnan.livejournal.com
Tables and chairs of course.

Speakers if you're playing music.

You need any fall decor? I probably have some silk mums and stuff up in my attic leftover from my wedding.

Date: 2007-04-19 05:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] taintedheaven.livejournal.com
Tables and chairs, check. (We even have a dancefloor)
We have a DJ, so he'll be bringing speakers, and I think our IPod sound dock will work nicely for the ceremony.
Let me know what you have in the way of decorations, because I'm definitely interested!

Date: 2007-04-19 08:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eicnan.livejournal.com
Most of it is pumpkin stuff so unless you're a pumpkin freak probably not of much interest =)

I'm pretty positive I have some of the silk mums in there and I know I have large silk sunflowers.

It's hard to see but on the floor in between the pumpkins are glass hurricanes with gold rims. I think I have 6 of them. They're nothing fancy but work for decor and I have a ton of fall colored marbles to stick in them or anything else you'd want marbles for.

They're kind of cheesy but I have some pumpkins with lace on them and wedding things carved in them

And a few pumpkins & gourds with bride & grooms carved on them.

I don't pay for s/h at work so anything you want is not a big deal for me to ship. And I know everyone has different visions so wouldn't hurt my feelings at all if none of it appeals to you.

Date: 2007-04-20 01:00 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
The mums and the hurricanes would be great! I like the pumpkins (and the lace ones weren't cheesey) but I don't want to throw in too much fall stuff. Fall is more of my "accent" them if you will. LOL. Let's work something out for sure.

Date: 2007-04-20 01:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] taintedheaven.livejournal.com
Yeah, I obviously forgot to sign in.

Date: 2007-04-20 03:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eicnan.livejournal.com
Just send me your shipping address to nancie2339@yahoo.com and next time I'm up in the attic I'll pull the mums and hurricanes down and ship them to you. I should be able to get up there this weekend.

Date: 2007-04-20 02:21 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] abnormal-apathy.livejournal.com
Will the tent be on grass or on "solid ground"? This could get messy if heaven forbid you have uncooperative weather. (If soft ground, a floor in the tent).

An arch or arbor to rent, if you can afford one. It really makes the "altar" stand out in a natural setting.

Make yourself an emergency kit that you can keep in a clutch purse. It should contain aspirin/Tylenol/Aleve, Midol (seriously!), antacids, bandaids, a packet or two of Neosporin, sewing needles and thread, safety pins, bobby pins, mints or breathstrips, scotch tape (buy the little flat dispenser so it takes up less room) and if you still have room an extra pair of knee highs or pantyhose.

Do you have someone who will be your designated wedding "assistant" or "coordinator"? This could be your maid/matron of honor, your mother or anyone. If so, give them an index card with the name and contact numbers for the important people involved in your wedding - your parents, your in-laws, your DJ, caterer, limo rental, equipment rental, florist, photographer...everything. If there is a problem and a rep isn't on site, no one has to freak out about not having a way to contact them or trying to remember phone numbers under pressure.

Make sure that your cake is reinforced (they usually do this with a wooden rod through the center of the cake). Also make sure that it is on a VERY sturdy table on VERY sturdy ground and not near a main point of traffic.

You're gonna think I've totally lost it, but throw an extra extension cord in the trunk of your car (if it'll be there) or the car of someone you trust.

Makeup bag with the essentials: makeup remover, foundation, powder, eyeliner, eyeshadow, lipgloss, cotton balls, qtips, and one of those nail polish remover pens as well as with a neutral color "just in case".

MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don't forget to breathe. I'm serious! I've seen so many pictures of what would be beautiful brides except that they are so stressed that it's all over their face and body posture. Au natural, not plaster-faced!

If you give me more info on what you've planned for the wedding, I can give you more tips. :)

Date: 2007-04-20 02:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] taintedheaven.livejournal.com
Well the tent is going to be on grass, but we'll have sidewalls on it, it's on flat ground and it's being set up the Wednesday before, so I'm hoping we'll be safe. If not, I'm going to need to figure out a cheap alternative to flooring because only the dancefloor is included and other flooring is way expensive.

I have my maid of honor working on my personal emergency kit and a basket for the ladies' room. That's an awesome idea about getting the flat tape dispenser, though.

My friend Wendy was going to be a bridesmaid, but has volunteered to be my "buffer" instead. She'll have my cellphone all day along with a clipboard with contact information and the itinerary for the day.

My cake has me a little worried. I'm not sure what it's going to look like yet, and the bakery I HAVE to have won't deliver outside of the city limits, where the wedding is.

Again, the extension cord is great thinking, as everything will be running off of generators and I'm sure we can use as many as we can get. I'm hoping to not be too stressed the day of.

Tell me what else you want to know, and I'll tell you all about it. I don't want to go into too much boring detail.

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