The maid of honor from hell
Jul. 8th, 2005 12:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
tainted_heavenWhen my sister got engaged, she decided to have her friend Jackie be her maid of honor. If it weren't for Jackie, she and Joe never would have met, so I was okay with that. Well, unfortunately, a week after Sarah and Joe got engaged, Jackie died in a car crash. Instead of asking me (you know, because I'm like her sister and stuff) to be her maid of honor, my sister picked her "friend" Ruthanne.
Now Sarah and Ruthanne have know each other since high school, but they hadn't spoken in almost 6 months at this point. I was pretty pissed off, as was my Dad. He was pissed to the point that she's not getting any extra money to pay for the wedding from him, but I digress.
Ruthanne is a nurse at Einstein, works the night shift and makes 3 times as much as anybody else in the bridal party. Unfortunately, she's also taking everything upon herself, because, "Everybody has work when I don't". Well that's not our fault, Ruthanne. We left work on our lunchbreaks to go look at halls for the shower. We told you what she'd like and what was propper, etc, and you went over our heads to the most expensive place you could find because YOU could afford it.
Each bridesmaid had to give her $50 back in April and another $150 by the first of June. That's $200 each and there's 6 bridesmaids. That's $1,200. If there's more that 40 people coming, we have to give her more the day of the shower. Even with the gift included, who the hell spends $1,200 on a bridal shower?
Ruthanne decided that our gift for the shower would be a gift certificate to Ceasar's Pocono resort. Well without telling us, she actually had the audacity to put into the shower invitations that gift certificates for Ceasar's would be appreciated. First off, that's fucking rude. Secondly, jiggawut? That's what we're getting her. Well apparently, she also decided that instead of the gift certificate, we were going to get her assorted wedding things like garters and the ring bearer's pillow and what not. God help her if she gets anything the Mom's supposed to get like the purse or the hanky or the nightie. My Mother already wants to rip her eyes out.
Everytime there's a problem with anything, she's on the phone to Sarah. My sister has been in tears about this and isn't even having fun planning her own wedding because of this. The job of the maid of honor is to make sure the bride doesn't have to deal with shit like this.
On top of all of this, she told me to plan the bachelorette, which I'm working on and somehow got it into her head that we would have a limo. Ummm, what limo?
I called the other girls in the wedding and they also think that Ruthanne is out of her mind. We just don't have the money for it.
Hey Ruthanne,
I talked to Sarah and she was saying that she'd like to go to Flatspin as a possibility for the party. I called them to see if they had packages or whatever, and they told me that for a party on a Saturday night, we'd have to call back closer to the date we're doing it, and the girl who answered said she was pretty sure it was $20 for a one hour open bar.
But...
She said that right now they're doing a special where it's free open bar and free buffet for groups of 15 or more people on Friday nights (I think she said like 8-10), no exceptions, no catches. If we book now, we can be locked into that rate.
Now I know we decided on the 20th of August because of your schedule, but I don't remember if you were actually working or doing something on the 19th, or if we just decided that a Saturday would be better?
Get back to me when you get a chance and let me know what you think.
Janet
Her reply:
sarah says that?s fine. Friday night is fine depending on the hours. She wants to probably go downtown after. We should get rides to flatspin then get a limo to pick us up and take us downtown for 4 hrs that way it would only cost about 240 total for the limo
1)did she not see that the first line of my email was "I talked to Sarah"?
2)who said anything about a limo? Only $240, really? um, no
I emailed Ruthanne back with the hours and get this back from her.
she really want sot go downtown. why go to flatspin when you can go there anytime? maybe we can go there for food then downtown at 10pm via limo until 2am ($240 total plus gratuity) we're not doing that because we're poor and the limo picking us up someplace defeats the purpose of the limo. Not to mention, I'm sure flatspin would love having our cars sitting there for no reason all night.
By this time, I'm tired of being nice and reply with this.
Because none of us can afford the limo.
This is what I got back:
well, that is something you can speak with sarah about, that is something she wants and she is the one getting married and this should be special for her. I/m gonna see what I can do but I may order one anyway and if people want in they can pay me. She really wants to go downtown.
so I talked to my sister, who says that yes, she does want to go downtown. Ok. I explain to her how expensive that gets and how we can go to one place maybe 2. I tried to explain to Ruthanne that it's ignorant to tell people that they not only have to pay money to come to the party, but they have to pay money for a ride. Ruthanne didn't see a problem with it.
Anyhow, the bitch is just pissing me off and I swear to god if she makes my sister cry one more time, I'm going to her house and stabbing her repeatedly.
Now Sarah and Ruthanne have know each other since high school, but they hadn't spoken in almost 6 months at this point. I was pretty pissed off, as was my Dad. He was pissed to the point that she's not getting any extra money to pay for the wedding from him, but I digress.
Ruthanne is a nurse at Einstein, works the night shift and makes 3 times as much as anybody else in the bridal party. Unfortunately, she's also taking everything upon herself, because, "Everybody has work when I don't". Well that's not our fault, Ruthanne. We left work on our lunchbreaks to go look at halls for the shower. We told you what she'd like and what was propper, etc, and you went over our heads to the most expensive place you could find because YOU could afford it.
Each bridesmaid had to give her $50 back in April and another $150 by the first of June. That's $200 each and there's 6 bridesmaids. That's $1,200. If there's more that 40 people coming, we have to give her more the day of the shower. Even with the gift included, who the hell spends $1,200 on a bridal shower?
Ruthanne decided that our gift for the shower would be a gift certificate to Ceasar's Pocono resort. Well without telling us, she actually had the audacity to put into the shower invitations that gift certificates for Ceasar's would be appreciated. First off, that's fucking rude. Secondly, jiggawut? That's what we're getting her. Well apparently, she also decided that instead of the gift certificate, we were going to get her assorted wedding things like garters and the ring bearer's pillow and what not. God help her if she gets anything the Mom's supposed to get like the purse or the hanky or the nightie. My Mother already wants to rip her eyes out.
Everytime there's a problem with anything, she's on the phone to Sarah. My sister has been in tears about this and isn't even having fun planning her own wedding because of this. The job of the maid of honor is to make sure the bride doesn't have to deal with shit like this.
On top of all of this, she told me to plan the bachelorette, which I'm working on and somehow got it into her head that we would have a limo. Ummm, what limo?
I called the other girls in the wedding and they also think that Ruthanne is out of her mind. We just don't have the money for it.
Hey Ruthanne,
I talked to Sarah and she was saying that she'd like to go to Flatspin as a possibility for the party. I called them to see if they had packages or whatever, and they told me that for a party on a Saturday night, we'd have to call back closer to the date we're doing it, and the girl who answered said she was pretty sure it was $20 for a one hour open bar.
But...
She said that right now they're doing a special where it's free open bar and free buffet for groups of 15 or more people on Friday nights (I think she said like 8-10), no exceptions, no catches. If we book now, we can be locked into that rate.
Now I know we decided on the 20th of August because of your schedule, but I don't remember if you were actually working or doing something on the 19th, or if we just decided that a Saturday would be better?
Get back to me when you get a chance and let me know what you think.
Janet
Her reply:
sarah says that?s fine. Friday night is fine depending on the hours. She wants to probably go downtown after. We should get rides to flatspin then get a limo to pick us up and take us downtown for 4 hrs that way it would only cost about 240 total for the limo
1)did she not see that the first line of my email was "I talked to Sarah"?
2)who said anything about a limo? Only $240, really? um, no
I emailed Ruthanne back with the hours and get this back from her.
she really want sot go downtown. why go to flatspin when you can go there anytime? maybe we can go there for food then downtown at 10pm via limo until 2am ($240 total plus gratuity) we're not doing that because we're poor and the limo picking us up someplace defeats the purpose of the limo. Not to mention, I'm sure flatspin would love having our cars sitting there for no reason all night.
By this time, I'm tired of being nice and reply with this.
Because none of us can afford the limo.
This is what I got back:
well, that is something you can speak with sarah about, that is something she wants and she is the one getting married and this should be special for her. I/m gonna see what I can do but I may order one anyway and if people want in they can pay me. She really wants to go downtown.
so I talked to my sister, who says that yes, she does want to go downtown. Ok. I explain to her how expensive that gets and how we can go to one place maybe 2. I tried to explain to Ruthanne that it's ignorant to tell people that they not only have to pay money to come to the party, but they have to pay money for a ride. Ruthanne didn't see a problem with it.
Anyhow, the bitch is just pissing me off and I swear to god if she makes my sister cry one more time, I'm going to her house and stabbing her repeatedly.
